I've been thinking so much about this boundary stuff lately, and I can't see any absolutes or conclusions because there are just too many variables and combination of variables.

Examples:

• Someone who is more constricted and controlled might feel safer with a therapist who doesn't disclose and keeps a distance.
  
• Someone who had intrusive parents might feel safer with a therapist who closes themselves off.

Even a therapist-client dyad with the same traits, with one variation, can make a huge difference:

• Someone masochistic and with a 'i'm not deserving' traits (that are ego syntonic) might align with a therapist who is stingy because it is within their world view.
  
• Someone masochistic and with a 'i'm not deserving' traits (that are ego dystonic) might align with a therapist who is stingy because it is within their world view, but have a huge conflict and be in turmoil about it.

And boundaries really represent one's personality for the most part. No matter how hard a therapist tries, their personality is going to impact things. It would be exhausting to evaluate every motivation, action, and word you are taking, every day, all day long, in your decision making. You couldn't even do therapy.

These examples are just a grain of sand in the the whole mix of things.

At any rate, I think it's good to talk about this stuff and don't see how it can be a bad thing.

Nothing in the world would have ever evolved if we didn't question things!!