Hi Querty Cat, If it would ease your mind, you can definitely call the hospital and ask for an update on your dad's condition. Don't be afraid to tell the hospital that this is your situation: Your mom is handling her fear by getting drunk and it's up to you to take care of things. Then too, you don't have to disclose anything you'd rather keep to yourself. The choice is yours. But you certainly have the right to know how your dad is doing...you don't have to wait for the hospital to call you.

You have every reason to feel resentful toward your mom for her lack of coping skills. And you are strong enough to do what needs to be done. I really mean that! I don't even know you, but I'm already proud of you. Also, it's great that you reached out to us here on PC for support.

We're here for you ((((HUGS))))