Sorry to hear that Seesaw. At least you are healthy enough that you are able to distance yourself from your dad, who is not a source of positivity in your life.

As I read down the list for each of the 6 types of emotional abuse from narcissistic parents in this article, I literally could add a semi-colon to nearly every item on the list with an example from my personal life.

At least 80% of the examples come from my narcissistic mother and my estranged brother, and about 25% of the list examples, applies to ex-friends and ex-romantic partners who exhibited narcissistic abuse towards me.

My mother is still a narcissist. She needs to move, out of her current apartment because she can no longer afford it and is showing signs of senility. My siblings and I can't afford to put her into a nursing home (her social security would cover it, but she refuses to acknowledge that).

So, she is demanding that I -- the family scapegoat -- look for a 2-bdrm apartment or duplex to rent with her. I put my foot down and told her no; and I suggested she contact her sister who lives in a huge, empty house (located in another state a few hours away).

Her response was "well, my sister wouldn't like that or agree to it." As if my feelings don't matter because I'm her daughter aka the family scapegoat. Again, I told her no, and added some links to various rental websites she could access herself to locate another cheaper apartment or nursing home to move to.

I am just waiting for my siblings to jump in with guilt tripping and shaming tactics. But it won't work. Narcissism = yuck.