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She's very feminine, likes makeup and stuff like that while I'm more of the jeans and t shirt type who likes outdoor activities. So naturally we clash. She's the "omg I broke a nail type" and that's annoying to me to be around because we have to do activities as a group at the day center and anytime we do anything physical she shows up in these fancy outfits and complains the whole time about how it's going to mess up her clothes. Much like if someone in a professional job showed up in sweats to work...I'm sorry but that's not someone I enjoy being around.
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I wonder what would happen if you two did something together...like spoke civilly over lunch, or did a task/project together, or dressed like the other for a day...like if you
actually got to know each other rather than drawing sweeping, negative conclusions based on clothes...
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She's very feminine, likes makeup and stuff like that while I'm more of the jeans and t shirt type who likes outdoor activities. So naturally we clash.
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Not so "naturally".
I am a committed Christian and I am very close friends with a committed atheist. We do not allow our fundamental difference in belief to stop us from having a very close friendship. Instead, we respect our differences and learn from each other.
I wonder if something like that could happen in your situation...
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I don't know anything about her sex life, nor do I judge anyone for their sex life, but I think it's a different story when you hurt someone like she did.
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Is it OK to be annoyed with someone or am I being judgmental?
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On the specific topic of her cheating: Imo yes, you are being judgmental.