Here's a question: how sure are you that you aren't jealous of her? I ask because when I am jealous of someone, I find myself much more easily annoyed by things they do. My brother is the same way, yet he seems totally oblivious to it. He will often go on rants talking about why he dislikes a certain person, and I find myself wondering why the stuff be is talking about bothers him so much. It is often pretty clear that he is just jealous of the person, but he seems oblivious to the fact that it is showing. It is like he is even oblivious to the fact that he is jealous.