DBT has helped me tremendously. It doesn't label your thoughts and emotions as good or bad, just acknowledges them. It teaches you how to tolerate extreme emotions and urges, and balances acceptance vs. change. You first focus on life threatening behaviors, therapy interfering, and so on. It has been very effective for me. There is more info on Marsha Linehan's website behavioraltech.org -- she is the one who creared it.