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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Maybe that is the real message you have deep in your mind when it comes to yourself. That is something that you need help with understanding better. Often our inner critic is coming from the messages we got growing up where a parent/adult authority figure/ and even siblings or piers encouraged us to think badly about ourselves.
Dealing with others is a big part of our lives. When we are subjected to negative messages at an early age, that becomes a "voice" that can stay with us our entire lives. Part of our "healing" journey is discovering the source of that voice and finding our way towards slowly correcting that and that is helped a great deal if we experience a therapist that can have the ability to see it with us and add a positive caring voice instead of that old negative voice that we carried around that "hurt" us and encouraged us to continue self criticizing rather than self nurturing.
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This is 100% correct. My father was horrible. I never remember him saying anything nice to me. It may have happened, but I don't remember it. Most of my memories are of verbal and physical abuse of my mother, brothers and sisters and I. He told me he hated me many times. Actually told isn't correct, he screamed it at me. My first memory of this was when I was 7 or 8.
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