But SOME of us had to learn to put on blinders not to see the glaring awfulness of the people in our families. Important for survival, not being punished, deprived, etc. Also the terrible conflict because we frequently love them anyway.

So then we go into therapy, continuing to blame ourselves for everything. Until finally the blinders come off and I can see the ugliness in the therapists' behavior, not just mine.

The world really, really sucks when that happens. Lots of jerks everywhere.