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Originally Posted by missbella
My woman therapist, though not as abhorrent as this woman, still enforced herself as socially and intellectually superior (...) I can read her writings years later and realize what a banal kook she is, Ivy League education and all.
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This actually fits my two (male) therapists although the first one played it in a different way, claiming from a sort of superior perspective that most clients just achieve an intellectual understanding of their issues, but he can help reach an emotional understanding (I'm still unclear what that means really) and that will provide a solution.
My second one was more the intellectually elitist kind, very proud of his education, career, and his clientele of apparently similarly highly educated, high achieving, successful individuals. I have found him a good match for me in many ways and had a successful experience in some specific ways (not what he seemed to be satisfied with though), but it wasn't because he provided me with extraordinary insights, not even anything I had not already known by myself. I used the interactions with him to beat some stubborn, annoying and harmful addictive/obsessive patterns in a structure, and his intellectual qualities were helpful in a sense that I felt very comfortable with him and he did make great effort to be consistent and professional. He had what I considered good boundaries but definitely also an elitism and often bragging about the high social status of his clients and his own. It actually achieved something with me: that I did not feel like becoming seriously vulnerable with him, it was a bit like both of us holding images. I don't complain because, again, the experience helped to address/fix specific issues but it wasn't more than that, it wasn't anything extraordinary.