I'm so sorry, 26west. Is there something you'd like, some area you could call your own that would center you a bit better as you look around at what's going on in your family; do you have a therapist or friends of your own, etc.?

I would look at tasks you do like grocery shopping, etc. and see about getting a hefty allowance from him so you have some money to "manage" as well. I'd see if you could have lessons on what he's doing (that's what my husband and I are doing, he is in charge of the finances/investing, etc. but I'm learning his system in case something happens to him). Maybe he is just being critical of your mistakes? That's not the same as being dumb, everyone makes mistakes. I had to balance the checkbook yesterday and was going too fast and would have made 3-4 mistakes if my husband hadn't stopped me. My husband doesn't get angry or make fun of me or think I'm dumb though. But since you know you're not dumb, stick with that and figure he's just having a hard time like you are? When I see we are both having a hard time, I redouble my efforts to see if there's something I can do that will make my husband feel "better" and that makes me feel better too.

But if things are getting too much and your husband isn't being at all "friendly" then maybe go see a lawyer and see what you should watch for/do and how to deal with it so it doesn't come out all in his favor.