Sometimes it helps me to recognize and label the situation/emotions the other person is feeling. For example, rather than worry a family member is unemployed and feeling like you have to fix it, I try to label the situation like: "She is feeling frustrated because she hasn't found a job and I will encourage her and give her my support in finding one, but it is ultimately up to her." Saying that to myself seems to help my mind put distance between owning someone's problem and supporting them.