Oh, wisewoman, I'm so sorry you have had to deal with "complicated" when you're not feeling well to begin with! I generally just go to bed with a book or sit in my "corner" with my laptop when that's happening and work hard on not snarling too often.

Do you have any little things that comfort you? I like showers and clean sheets. A couple days ago I needed that but first had to deal with my asthma and get blinds closed so I could undress and change the bed and a bunch of "little" things before I could get to the shower and it was too much so I had to call for my husband to come help. I hate when there are a lot of little things, like gnats getting in your eyes and up your nose :-) and it gets to be too much and too frustrating. I'm lucky because my husband is a calm, kind, and practical guy so at times like that I can do the "minimum" I have to and he'll organize and do most of the rest.