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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
I think I was given the wrong dx..
I’m unsure what boundaries wouldn't work with someone with AvPD?
I've changed considerably with boundary issues.. but not thanks to irl therapy. Unfortunately he (and another irl t) had worse boundary issues than I had.. and didn't even mention the word boundary.
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It’s the word “no…
The problem isn’t the (boundaries) sentences or structures that have been given Fuzzy, it’s the actual use of the word “No”
You can’t use the word No, making those boundaries or word structures invalid for someone with AvPD.
No is a harsh, negative word, because you are saying no you’re letting someone down, letting yourself down. You’re showing your inability feeding your low self esteem/self worth while strengthening the AvPD grip around your neck.
“Yes“ doesn’t always mean the opposite of a negative, so don’t go down that train of thought. Things aren’t that clear cut and black and white with AvPD.
No, isn’t a one word complete sentence that’s BS to someone with AvPD.
Saying “No” means you have been put in an awkward position and have now have pre-during and afterthoughts to deal with all the while trying to keep your AvPD at a minimum….now that minimum can spike depending on you current state.
You don’t have to be AvPD to know this but Avie’s are very sensitive people on the inside. A small word like “NO” has a lot of feelings, emotions and history surrounding it. But you have to be AvPD to fully understand the full extent.
64,188 posts is another reason why you should question your dx.
