It is self-paranoid-making to think people are talking about you "behind your back" and you can't know what they're saying; I try to stay away from that one the best I can and just automatically assume they're saying/doing good things for themselves and me :-)

Might be nice to have both your PDoc and T on the same page, even if you and your T are having troubles with that :-) I had a heck of a time letting my T on my page (or even in the same book, LOL). Try to think of it as being "cared for" and having extra protection, etc.