Patagonia,
You have had some sound advice given already. May I put another perspective on it though? I don't know if you have read my original post, but I have recently separated from my husband after an 11 year relationship and marriage. WE have 2 young children 7 and 9 years old. For the last 5 years or so I was just so unhappy. We kind of drifted apart and he showed very little affection and romance towards me. Everything felt unequal and it was the little things that he did not do, such as cleaning up the dishes after I had cooked, doing the groceries, contributing to housework evenly, etc... that gradually eroded away at our relationship. I was told by my paretns that I should stay for the kids sake, but the reality was that they had 2 unhappy parents and they were beginning to pick up on that. Now that we have separated, things are still hard for me emotionally but they now have 2 happy parents.