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Originally Posted by Onward2wards
Inner conflicts are part of being human. They hurt. The thing is who do you want to be? Forget what anyone else says, you get to define yourself and decide what is right for you. Sometimes a therapist can help point out pros and cons, and be a guide, but eventually you get to define your own boundaries and express your own preferences. Some of this just comes out of getting more experiences.
As for fearing that no guy will ever love you - if that were literally true, I would have to assume my entire gender is heartless, an incompetent judge of character, and blind. I've read enough of your posts to conclude that you are a thoughtful, considerate person with deep feelings and relatable fears. What is there not to like? Sooner or later, surely you will find someone who loves you for you and the mutual chemistry will work. I wish I could offer some "one weird trick" that makes it all work more efficiently.
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That's very true I guess I became very rose coloured in my version letting others tell me what to think and feel about things and as I'm gaining wisdom and experience I'm realizing, they had no idea what they were talking about, they literally assumed they knew my situation because of there "psychic" abilities but there words don't actually match what happened. I guess there's a time in our lives when we need to learn to think for ourselves and to stick up for what we believe in. Those so called psychics were fear mongers nothing they said about my health and relationships were true. That being said I'm tired of listening to peoples advise and forgetting my inner voice. I'm not doing this anymore. I know that the situation with guys I really need to listen to my gut if I'm really that disgusted by men then maybe I'm not as straight as I once thought. It's okay to change our minds about something were not all set in stone. I know I'm progressively changing with the waves of the ocean. I think with more experience around relationships I'll have a stronger more defined boundary. When it comes to guys I'm very used to feeling uncomfortable and I think that means something on a sensory level that I need to explore the multiple causes of it.