You've had an extraordinary life, HealingSoul. I guess your hubby is proof that people can change, that in it's self is pretty darn extraordinary, most times that is not the case. I'm so sorry about your daughter. It sounds like she's doing better now. There should be no statute of limitations on the crime committed against her.. meaning that the cops shouldn't be able to stop you from pressing charges against that man no matter how much time has passed, so I don't understand why that happened. Is she getting counselling, or did she get counselling, after you found out what had happened?
You are a tough lady, that's for sure. Miscairrage is in it's self scary and painful, emotionally and sometimes physically, but that is the most traumatic miscairrage I have ever heard of. I can't beleive they took so long to care for you. I'm sorry for your loss, and glad you were able to have another child.
You have dealt well with your mother, kudos. Have you ever heard of a book, A Child Called IT? I cried through almost that whole book, it's a true story, and I've read the rest of the series too. We learn how to play their games when we're children, and later we learn how not to. But they always affect us in one way or another. Way to go for not continuing that cycle.
Thank you for sharing this all with us, and welcome to the forum.