This seems more on track for both of us... being that safety is an abstract, I supppose our best idea of what it is will come from the way we experience it in our bodies.

For me, I suppose I can identify safety by the feeling that I do not have to actively protect or hide any part of myself-- that I can be confident and secure in my vulnerability. I feel warm and fluid and connected, and I can sense every part of my body rather than small bits and pieces of it which is more usual. I can say for sure that it's happened a couple times with T. And also a few times with a friend. Both in the past year, absolutely never before.