Lol I have to say your last sentence made me smile... and this is not a good day. I consulted that dude for longer than I care to say and.. ? Wtf? Gggrrrrr
I think the truth is at one point I did - maybe - qualify for that dx, but I never wanted it. Sensitive yes - "dislike" the word "no" more than most.
(He completely missed the trauma associated with this long ago when I was a cub..)
But I defied the ****er and his "prognosis"
I respect those with AvPD - I've never known an Avie who is mean deep down.. so maybe I do have it.. I'm atypical for sure though with my posts and some other things
PS thanks for your post - I agree with you about the word "no" - I don't think I've ever used it to anyone on its own.. (unlike some in the family of origin..) Your post also helped me to clarify in my mind something else regarding another therapist I saw irl (she was also without a clue
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Originally Posted by Snap66
It’s the word “no…
The problem isn’t the (boundaries) sentences or structures that have been given Fuzzy, it’s the actual use of the word “No”
You can’t use the word No, making those boundaries or word structures invalid for someone with AvPD.
No is a harsh, negative word, because you are saying no you’re letting someone down, letting yourself down. You’re showing your inability feeding your low self esteem/self worth while strengthening the AvPD grip around your neck.
“Yes“ doesn’t always mean the opposite of a negative, so don’t go down that train of thought. Things aren’t that clear cut and black and white with AvPD.
No, isn’t a one word complete sentence that’s BS to someone with AvPD.
Saying “No” means you have been put in an awkward position and have now have pre-during and afterthoughts to deal with all the while trying to keep your AvPD at a minimum….now that minimum can spike depending on you current state.
You don’t have to be AvPD to know this but Avie’s are very sensitive people on the inside. A small word like “NO” has a lot of feelings, emotions and history surrounding it. But you have to be AvPD to fully understand the full extent.
64,188 posts is another reason why you should question your dx.  |