I'm told there's a difference. I'll try and keep this as to the point as I can. This is about an ex-friend and I guess I'm just looking for some insight.

He doesn't drink every day, and can actually abstain from it whenever he chooses to. He drinks approximately once a week and maybe a few times per month when he goes out. He can drink a lot. Over time he became more difficult while drinking. He says wine makes him see things clearly, and he speaks truths (according to him) in very hurtful ways. Not ridiculing, but also not giving a sh--.

Other hard liquors made him combative. It used to be that wine merely made him see through the BS and call it out. Over time this overlapped and I couldn't tell the difference. He's combative period. He knew he was too. He admitted it to me one day and I just about fainted!