I believe feelings are meant to inform thinking and I am at the point where if I like what I'm thinking I go with it and if I don't like what I'm thinking, I don't.

I think I would always have too much trouble thinking other people's feelings didn't matter as much as my pain. I'd rather hurt than cause other people hurt. Even when the other people "didn't matter" (when I couldn't feel them because of my depression) my head still works pretty good and I know that is why I can't feel them and I'd remember that when I could feel them I loved them and did not want to hurt them. In other words, when I get in a "conflict" between my thinking and my feelings, for me, I know my thinking is better to "trust".

Sometimes I've "gone with" my feelings and that has turned out well too because sometimes when my thinking is squirrely or causing me trouble my feelings can "feel" their way through a problem :-) In the end, I trust "myself" all that is "in" me, to take care of myself. I don't want to die, one way or another and the little "spark" that's left is always feisty :-)