For some of us, our MI is about getting hung up on stuff rather than moving on. I have decided that what tortures me the most is parental guilt. I won't rehash it all here but whether intentionally or not, I have a lot of angst when I think about the kind of mother I was and the overall atmosphere for my children growing up. Ironically, I probably looked like the perfect mother in many ways but my MI, anxiety, inconsistency, that kind of thing is nothing to brag about. I try to be a positive force but fear the damage is done. Sometimes the things I read at PC make it worse. It is not the posters--it is the result of my own actions. I expect to carry this guilt with me until the day I die....Are their any posters out there whole feel like a a parent was able to make amends in a way that is truly healing? Or perhaps if your family is dysfunctional then the best answer is to move on and never look back? I do believe that when you are an adult that sometimes there are not perfect choices and when we are forced to make hard choices (such as cutting off our parents, divorce, etc.), we have to figure out how to best move our lives forward rather than becoming stuck......