Hi Retro,
Apart from the Facebook piece (Can't find T on FB), I pretty much do the same. I don't think it's pathetic, and I doubt your T will hate you. I think it's normal to want that constant connection. It's taken me a long time, but I'm getting more comfortable admitting what I need , even if I don't know why. Like sending an email just to get a reply - a physical validation she's still there.
If you bring it up - I hope your T responds well.