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Originally Posted by retro_chic
In session today T and I got to talking about "connection" as I told her that I often want to email her between session as a way of maintaining a connection. T then asked me if I do anything else between sessions to feel connected. I couldn't tell her that I constantly look at her and her husband's facebook profiles multiple times a day. I am sure T would be extremely creeped out if she knew how much stuff I know about her from my facebook stalking. I also look at T's website and read old emails from her (the emails are all about mundane things like scheduling). It is so pathetic and yet I hate holding things back from T, I just want to tell her everything but I don't want her to hate me.
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I understand your reluctance to tell her about the Facebook profiles (my T was upset when I told her I'd found hers and her H's--marriage counselor was OK about my finding his wife's though). But I think it would be fine to tell her that you look at her website (I assume you mean her professional one?) and read the old e-mails.
Is she open to e-mailing between sessions? Even just one line, like a "hey, are you still there?" Or "Feeling a need for a connection." If not, then maybe ask her what she would suggest to make you feel more connected? I know some people have talked about having some sort of transitional object from their T. But maybe she has other ideas.
Edited to add that I sometimes look at old e-mails, too, particularly from MC. And I have a couple of MC's voice mails saved where he sounds particularly caring that I listen to from time to time if I'm feeling stressed or upset.