Just wanted to let you know that I read your post and I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time. Your grandma sounds toxic and unpleasant to be around - it must be very difficult to deal with.

Unfortunately many abusive people put on a facade of being nice to people on the outside, so they come across as a great person and people just can't believe that this great person could be abusive. It sounds like your grandma has people on the outside fooled, and that is unfortunate. But you know the truth, and your mom knows the truth. That is what truly matters.

I hope you are able to find a job and become financially able to move out as soon as possible. I truly believe independence can make a huge difference in our happiness. Until then, hang in there and focus on yourself primarily. I wish you nothing but the best.