I've been diagnosed with Borderline traits, and I'm not sure if it's correct.

I am very pleasant, calm, and controlled with people I am not very close to. They really don't bother me. I have no expectations for them...see?

The closest ones to me, who are supposed to love me, really press my buttons when they don't act like I expect someone who loves me to act. I am not reacting over nothing, it's over a lot. They are really doing the bad behavior. But my reaction to it is off the charts.