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Originally Posted by Rizzar
Hello, starryprince. You have much to deal with.
I wish you well.
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Thanks so much! ❤
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Originally Posted by scaredandconfused
Just wanted to let you know that I read your post and I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time.  Your grandma sounds toxic and unpleasant to be around - it must be very difficult to deal with.
Unfortunately many abusive people put on a facade of being nice to people on the outside, so they come across as a great person and people just can't believe that this great person could be abusive.  It sounds like your grandma has people on the outside fooled, and that is unfortunate. But you know the truth, and your mom knows the truth. That is what truly matters.
I hope you are able to find a job and become financially able to move out as soon as possible. I truly believe independence can make a huge difference in our happiness. Until then, hang in there and focus on yourself primarily. I wish you nothing but the best.  |
That's the thing. Everyone who meets her loves her. They don't know the real her. She puts up a very good mask. She acts very nice in front of people and then talk about them behind her back. But when I describe her I feel so guilty because I feel like I shouldn't be talking about her like that...It's a guilt I'm trying to work through. Thanks a lot. I've been applying to jobs so I hope I hear back from some. Fingers crossed!
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Originally Posted by DaX15
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*hugs back!*
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Originally Posted by Clara22
Hi
Sometimes we need to leave and that's the only thing we can do when we are young. I don't know if this is the case but sometimes we need to get very upset and cut ties in order to be ourselves because when we live or have toxic people around they will do whatever it takes not to let us grow. Because if we grow we put their own poor lifestyle in evidence. They cannot even think about it. Because it would be an horror to see how they are really. I don't know but your grandma seems to be a sick person. It reminds me the step mom of my father. Lord! That woman carried too much suffering from her own childhood but she was horrible herself. She was a real spider. I was born poor in a country ruled by dictators. Some of my family members were killed by the dictatorship, another ones disappeared. Other family members did not fight the dictatorship, they just adapted. We had domestic issues, as well. I know that poverty somehow affects our expectations but on the other hand it gives us a lot of endurance, once we open our eyes and see the limitations our poverty brought to us, we can also take advantage of the training poverty gave us, as well.
Again, I don't know your case, but in my case, I had to leave and get away in order to rule my life. Then I could come back but in my own terms. To me it was necessary. It was not easy and it took time. But it was worthy. I wish you good luck and send you a big hug
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That's the exact same problem with my grandma. She had a very rough childhood and it made her bitter. It's really sad to see how things in childhood can affect a person well into their senior years...I truly believe I have to find my own place because I feel stifled here, especially since I can't transition. I am really hoping I find a job soon because it'll make it easier. Thanks so much for the good luck and the hug! *hugs back*
Thanks so much for the kind replies everyone. I was hoping that I didn't annoy anyone on this forum because I feel like I can be annoying at times, heh. I am very glad to have a community like this.