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Originally Posted by unaluna
Regarding the time slot - your t would have been left with an empty time slot for a month. "Reserved for skies"? I guess i cant really see him telling someone, hey you can have this time for 4 weeks, but then you have to give it back?
Given how my t schedules his little paper calendar book, i know he does it week to week based on when i was there the previous week, cuz thats the only times its gotten messed up, when something changed the previous week.
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Really? I've had that slot for about 4 years. How would you feel if you went on vacation for 2 weeks, then came back, and found out you now had 7 am on Tuesday...at one of your most vulnerable moments told in an email by the way, I gave your session to someone else. And then said he gave it away because it was one of his 'prime' slots.
Actually, he wouldn't have to put someone in it for 4 weeks then ask them to do another time. He has at least 3 other open slots on a regular basis. And probably more as those are the only ones I'm aware of. He could have offered one of those times to the new person and used my time for other appointments.
Maybe it wouldn't be as impactful if I had more than one a week or it didn't impact my job/hardship, had he discussed it with me first, wasn't callous about it, didn't shame me for my reaction, etc.
But I do recall you complaining in the past about your T rearranging your schedule to accommodate other people, don't remember the details if he discussed it with you first or if it impacted your ability to get there. He's also asked me to move my time a bit to accommodate someone else, and I was ok with it. So, it's probably more the way he handled it than anything.
Do long-term clients typically lose their slots when they go on vacation? That's basically your rationale. I know some pay to hold slots, I was never given the option. I do pay for my cancelled sessions and did so before he ever even asked me to. I try to respect the relationship.
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Originally Posted by unaluna
Transference for me is somebody does something i dont like, and i react like a crazy person out of the blue. I feel trapped like i did with my mother. I cant just nicely ask the person to stop doing whatever. I feel like they think it is their right and they will INSIST on persisting in the behavior. So i explode. The "transferee" is usually pretty innocent tho, really. They had no way of knowing it was bothering me that much. An incident that comes to mind is my wanting to decrease my weekly t sessions. Or a coworker asking me to join her and other coworkers for a midafternoon walk to the cafeteria for a soda.
So there are at least 4 POVs on this - can he see it thru your eyes, can you see it thru his eyes, etc
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I was thinking of transference reenactments but I think I know what you mean when the reaction doesn't match the situation. what you are describing doesnt' sound like transference to me-it sounds like emotional reactivity. I'm not typically a controlling person so not sure how this applies. Don't really understand what you're saying here in this part as it applies to me though
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