1. I agree the way he handled it, sucks big time.
2. I agree that if you didn't pay for the time to be held, then he had the right to fill it.
3. I agree that since this sounds like it was clearly explained to be a temp time adjustment, he should not have offered the time slot to someone else as a permanent thing.
4. antidote - through the holidays this past year, most of them fell on one of my 2 days so T and I agreed to change my schedule from M&W to W&F; which was hard on me, much harder than I thought it should be. I do have some issues with changes to routines and schedules. During this switch we were able to stay in the same office (shared space). However, when we switched back to M&W, some how our usual room had be pulled as reserved for her and given permanently to someone else. I have something... don't know what it is technically called, but I bond to inanimate objects and spaces and create relationships with them. So, losing the space was a disruption/adjustment. I was able to make that adjustment and work in new bonds. Now we are onto a 3rd room on Mondays due to clinic remodel. I hate this new office and it leaves me agitated or anxious during session. ... ... moral of the story, disruptions of all kinds can affect us in a multitude of ways and reasons... the simple fact that there is the shift in your life might be enough of a reason to have an emotional response and that is OK. The hows, whys, and everything around the shift just adds another dimension to the shifting landscape of your life. Based on what I understand and interpret, the fact that your T didn't check in with you regarding scheduling expectations, didn't honor your relationship longevity, didn't validate or respect the impact his actions had on your life, didn't own his part in causing a disruption to your routines/expectations,... (the list could go on)... are all additional reasons for stress/distress - in short, an emotional reaction/response to the situation. It is understandable, valid, and Okay to feel what you feel. I'd feel it too, maybe just for different reasons.

ETA: I think the goal here, is to get past what you feel (not over it, not discount it, but look past it) to see why you feel it. Is it because of something that is mostly in your make up, past, temperament, personality, ...; mostly in response that is in his make up, past, temperament, personality...; or how the combination of those things are blending together to create the turmoil inside you. AND then figure out if you can really work with him on sorting it out. Since he doesn't ever seem to take ownership on the concept that his behavior alone does impact you in the here and now... I have a problem seeing how you could work out anything with him. Yeah, maybe his actions triggered this cascade of internal stuff from your past, he still did whatever he did in the here and now and he doesn't seem capable (at least not with you) of seeing that maybe he was discourtesy, disrespectful, or not compassionate in the way he handled things.



PS - I must really be over my mad, looking at all those big words and concepts I just used.