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Old Apr 14, 2017, 06:15 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
@@ - im a hippy, i would hope id be the last person to say "its business, not personal" as an excuse. But worst case scenario, the client assumed the time would be reserved, the t assumed it wouldnt, and it was a misunderstanding that was not openly discussed.

A case could be made for both sides, there are extenuating circumstances on both sides.

A rupture to be resolved?
No, there is no case. It's not an argument or disagreement. There is no misunderstanding. If I had any doubt, I would seriously be thinking of that-probably hanging on to it right now.

Would be nice if it could be resolved...will try. Or not..

I think people go on vacation all the time or have medical interventions, for example, and don't expect their slot of 4 years to be given away. I don't see this as any different.

Using my imagination-the forum would fall apart every July if everyone's therapists gave away their sessions when they went on vacation or took a short break.

He knows how sensitive I am to scheduling, extremely vulnerable and sensitive to it. We've talked about it over and over and over. He knows how much it affects me. How could there be any room for misunderstanding there?

He had other slots available. And he had plenty of opportunities to tell me he had someone else he was considering giving my slot too, or that someone else wanted it. I mentioned here that I pay for any sessions I cancel. If money or business was even the issue, or needing to fill his schedule, he could have offered me the option to pay to hold the sessions. Plenty of opportunities to ask me.

Really bad adverse effect from my treatment, was incapacitated for 9 days total. It felt my brain was swollen, for one. Just deleted extra information about numerous other stressors going on at the time affecting me mentally. He knows how demanding my work schedule is, it is extreme.

He also didn't he tell me that he gave my session away weeks ago until after I took my 3 day break. He told me this in an email when I was having a PTSD meltdown, where I thought dissociated parts and material was coming up like it did years ago. He knows I was traumatized when that happened.

If it was simply a misunderstanding, would the average therapist tell someone that vulnerable, with all that going on, who is known to have major issues with scheduling, in an email oh, by the way, I gave another client your session. Someone practicing 40 years? Like he wouldn't realize? Seriously?

Then when I expressed hurt and distress over it, have no empathy? Instead, shame me and tell me I am the only one in 40 years who had ever been 'upset' about having their slot of nearly 4 years given away?

Face it-it was cruel.

Look, i'm not trying to demonize him. I feel like I'm dying and am alone and have no one else to talk with about this. Not coming here to prove anything or win arguments. Have been a total wreck, feel kicked in the stomach, sui, can't function well enough to be productive, and just want to not be alone in at all.
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Thanks for this!
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