I was dating a guy (well, there was a off periods) for 5 years. This relationship is over now, for good and for ever. It has been about 2 almost 3 months. I told my therapist that I was not going to be dating any time soon. However, there is this guy that I work with, and well, we are not "dating" just "hanging out". The problem I have with that is this---I don;t want to get attached to have my heart shreaded again. I hate this.