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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
...what I want isn't necessarily what other people want...don't really want hugs...touch isn't always comforting to me? So I don't know how to apply it to other people. I just try to talk to them and hope it doesn't make the problem worse or they think I'm cold or something.
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Exactly. I neither need nor want someone's touch to know I have his or her attention, so hearing something like "Shut up and kiss me!", for example, makes no sense to me.
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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
...where's the line between a bad/less than ideal childhood and being "wired differently"? Maybe part of the reason I didn't get my needs met as a child was because I was different and my parents didn't know how to meet my needs.
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I think "wired differently" is/was the greater factor there in my own case. But yes, and even though I seldom self-label as "weird", I do believe my difference and my childhood each contributed to my overall lack of social and emotional intelligence.
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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
I'm also still sensitive and emotional. I'm pretty neurotic honestly.
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I isolate a bit and use some avoidance to reduce that, but I can definitely identify!