If someone has badly let you down,if your trust in them has really been broken (for whatever reason-in my case my friend claimed it was through illness),can you/should you approach them and give them the opportunity to earn your trust again,or is it never going to work unless they approach you? (Just re-reading that makes me realise again just how little trust I have-I used the word "claimed"-I don't even know whether to believe that her hurtful behaviour was caused by illness or whether she used it as an excuse!!!)