That is a wonderful gift you gave yourself there, slowandgentle. Good for you that you chose to try and resolve it with him.

I had a similar situation with my current T like this. She 'abandoned' me right at the start when I'd just seen her for a few weeks. I'd actually decided that I couldn't trust her after that. Tried to find another T. But realized that it would be 'better' to try and clear things up with her directly. So after a couple of months I'd decided to give it another try with her.

Just her taking responsibility for what she did and saying, yes you have every right to be angry at me, and I'm sorry for this, was incredibly healing and empowering. If anything it made the connection much, much stronger.

Hoping the same will be true for you.