I always got a lot from discussing my dreams with T. Studying dreams, I learned that we are all the characters in our dreams since they are our dreams that our unconscious is making up. It's our play/drama that we see.

Maybe you could just mention to your T that you often have a dream about her the night before you come see her? If she asks for details, give her as many as you are comfortable with (that she was a man and had a girl shadowing her). Even the awkward parts though, like her hugging you while you cry, etc., it's just a dream. I got so I could tell my T everything and I had a dream where my head was in her lap and she was stroking my hair