I'll try to mention it to David but lately any suggestion is met by negativity. That's how I met my therapist - I called her office looking for couple counseling and after the separation - she offered her services because I answered the phone crying. I'm between anger and frustation and sadness because I'm shut out. He needs to have weekly sessions with his doctor. One day after our separation, he stop taking all of his meds "just because he wanted to feel what it was like" and two days later was drinking excessively and he's telling me over the phone like it was nothing. he went back on his meds but it seems he doesnt care that this is hurting me and pushing me away. I dont know if that's his intention or is it the PTSD bipolar depression. He still tells me he loves me and misses you - however if I start talking about us and going to couseling and reconciling - his response is so cool - "this conversation is draining me". The time apart is hard he agrees but when he says doing each other's own things and then bam miraculously come back together with barely any communication. it's all so overwhelming and heart wrenching. I'm just so tired and worndown!