Dear gladslam, It sounds like you are taking too much responsibility on YOURSELF. One thing I've learned -- and it sounds selfish, but it isn't -- is that "I have to take care of myself first." Why is that? Because, if we don't take care of ourselves, we will not be strong enough to take care of anyone else. It's like we know about if we see someone drowning: if one is not a trained lifeguard, and jumps in to try to "save" the drowning person, you will both drown. Besides, life guards are trained NOT to dive into the water, except as a last resort, when everything else they have been trained to do, has not worked. Such as throwing a life line, a life preserver ring, or whatever else they know.

One way that MIGHT help EVERYONE CONCERNED is if your b/f could somehow get into IP. But you'd need to see about this -- in the state where I live (maybe yours, too?) the only way a person can get admitted to IP is if they are a "danger to themself or others." Is he in any danger to himself or others?

Are their public services in your area that can help out? There are a lot of them in the city where I live. Do you have a caseworker? Ask your T to get you a caseworker ASAP and then ask the caseworker to come to your home. There is a printed directory of agencies, etc, in my city, that will help people find what they need. Ask your T for such a list if there is one. Ours is by category, such as "Housing," "Medical," "Mental Health," etc etc