I think what helps is slowing down only if you got the diagnoses already choosing words wisely. Also being gentle with ourselves when you actually do run into a disconnects and can't find anything to say. Sometimes alters are still in conversation from the waiting room on the way to session some from several years ago trying to get those in the inner world open and constantly worked out psychologically speaking. Previous sessions just in case you don't want to be redundant stop that you don't need to share can be alters dissociating. Some alters get psychotic and there is no help for them it like a maze to getting to some will get them talking and out of tail spin but that is some of most intricate of knowledge. It can be quite the suspect detective video game to figure what our worlds consist of what we are doing and what are we contributing to society when we actually have folks in our life. The ultimately goal what all can we get to get to the memories, our truth just as long as there is balance which can be a problem for some systems once you program yourselves to this some of it no choice.