Thanks. Yes, I agree it has to be one-sided to a certain extent but as Iīve read a lot about therapy and Iīve also met with many T:s in evaluation I know their attitude towards sharing stuff, letting clients in some minutes before the session starts and so on are very shifting.
My first T worked within a relational psychodynamic therapy and she shared something almost every time. Something little like briefly mentioning a TV program sheīd seen or a singer she liked. To me such things reduces feelings of rejection and distance. It helps creating a more balanced relationship and itīs also a therapy technique thatīs designed to have a certain purpose when the T shares things, offers a glass of water and such.
I donīt feel that accepted, even if I donīt think my counselor dislikes me, when she sits more strictly and analyses what I say, ask me questions and such. Instead it feels rather cold to be met in such a way.
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Originally Posted by rainboots87
I do understand where you're coming from, and I experience a lot of loneliness. However, the therapeutic relationship for me is that one place in my life I can be myself 100% without judgment. I think it needs to be one-sided, as hard as that can be sometimes, because that's how my T is able to be there for me- because it's all about me, not her. To me, that is total acceptance not rejection. She accepts me, even when I have trouble accepting myself. She's safe and encouraging and all the things I need from her. While it can be hard knowing it's not reciprocal, in some ways it is so much better. I'm sorry you're hurting  |