I am also a "yes, but" answerer. I have a tendency to minimize things, I know this. I'm sure it's some kind of coping mechanism but it has served me....well, not great BUT it has allowed me to function. I think there is a part of me that is afraid if I admit my childhood was abusive or that I didn't deserve it, then I have to deal with whatever comes with it. Until now I have been able to convince myself that everything was justified or not a big deal so to challenge a lifetime of thinking like that is hard. The last time we approached the subject I ended up having my first panic attack. It was awful.

If it were anyone else (my T likes to put things in perspective using my kids usually....he might be evil) I would feel it was abusive or traumatic but I just can't seem to apply it to me. :P