yes this is a good place to post ... you know that a loving caring relationship is a two way street ... what she is doing is causing distress ... and that's bad ... but you have to weigh that against breaking the peace ... but what is this doing to your opinion of yourself ... I think I would write out a very sincere letter ... and in a quite together time read it to her ... but only you know what is the best way to approach this ... I wish you sucess and happiness (together) ... Love .. Tigger.