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Originally Posted by cinnamon_roll
That is a wonderful gift you gave yourself there, slowandgentle. Good for you that you chose to try and resolve it with him.
I had a similar situation with my current T like this. She 'abandoned' me right at the start when I'd just seen her for a few weeks. I'd actually decided that I couldn't trust her after that. Tried to find another T. But realized that it would be 'better' to try and clear things up with her directly. So after a couple of months I'd decided to give it another try with her.
Just her taking responsibility for what she did and saying, yes you have every right to be angry at me, and I'm sorry for this, was incredibly healing and empowering. If anything it made the connection much, much stronger.
Hoping the same will be true for you.
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Thanks..I think the immediate benefit is realising that I am entitled to check things out, I do have a right to ask for what I need (whether it is fulfilled or not) and in a practical sense, I learned to sit down and work out how to approach that sort of situation and what I would do, depending on how he responded. It was a much slower, more mindful approach than I have ever taken in the past. And it worked.