I am in the same position but I would go further. I get hurt my everyone. Friends, co workers, family. So I stay away from them to the best of my ability.

1. While it is true that not everyone is evil... there is a ton of people out there who seem to feel you (or anyone) exists just to do what they want. If you do that... it becomes a one sided relationship. If you don't... they will leave. I literally cannot find anyone at all... that puts me in the driver seat. If I find anyone who comes close they usually have friends and family of their own so they don't need me.

2. The idea that you need people to exist imho is a social construct that is only good for corporations and other corporate masters. But it simply doesn't make a ton of sense. For hundreds of years there weren't a lot of people around so a LOT of people were alone. Without the internet, tv, or a way to write letters. They did fine. So this idea that you must be with someone or you will shrivel up and die only serves, Facebook, Instagram or any of the other things that thrive on the promise of good friendships. When I watch a historical drama like Pride and Prejudice you see that Lizzy had like 3 friends and lived to meet people because there weren't any around. But today there are too many around. Perhaps the best move today is just to stay way from them.

3. I realized that when I was younger I went along with the users and the tools because I assumed that some day I would find good people. But the good people I do find are busy with their families etc and are highly desired. If someone is available.. usually they will be a user. I find relationships to be horrible.

So yes.. I don't go to work events... I don't go out with people after work.. I keep my office door closed all the time... and I mostly sit at home on the weekends... AND I HAVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER.