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It sounds like several of us have read it. Maybe we could have an informal book discussion, if it helps anyone.

The reason I read it:

I was having transference as to my (ex) T and was too scared, at that time, to talk to him. I knew very little about transference back then and my attachment shocked and scared me. I knew I was attached to my T, but he had only mentioned a therapeutic bond.

We were bonded therapeutically, but over the course of four years I found myself having transference, maybe. I wasn't sure but I wondered after reading this forum. There definitely was no ongoing, heavy erotic transference. He was like a father figure to me.

The book was a huge relief and wonderful resource for me when this happened:

I disclosed my transference to T. (Background: He only allowed outside contact via phone to leave a voic mail for scheduling purposes only. He called himself a "blank slate," very conservative, very little self-disclosure, a simple handshake at the end of a session only, etc. He said the therapy room was "sterile.")

I'd noticed over time he complimented my appearance frequently, said I was his hardest working patient, he blushed when I wanted to discuss hypersexuality symptoms I was struggling with I'm bipolar), etc. I don't think he was out of order...until I confessed I had ONE instance where I dreamed we kissed. I cried, apologized. He said he wouldn't terminate me. Next session, it was like another regular session--except at the very end of the session....he terminated me. No referrals. I was shredded. It was like a death to me.

So, that book helped me ALOT. My T was elderly and had been a T for a very long time. He told me he had never had a patient with transference. Until me. The book helped me feel like I wasn't a bad person. I really felt like a bad person when my T dumped me, two days later, after promising he wouldn't...the book really helped me.