I agree with the above posters. One thing that I do is keep my Klonopin in my purse. Perhaps pick out your outfit ahead of time. Something you feel good/confident/attractive in and give yourself plenty of time to shower and get ready.

I think you can enjoy yourself, I have several anxiety disorders, too. I empathize with you and I stay home a lot, too. I go out to dinner or to the store, occasionally, and it's been OK the majority of the time.

Also, if you feel overwhelmed - excuse yourself from the table and go to the restroom. Take a breather, wash your hands, whatever. I do it a lot. Just separating myself from the stimulating environment for a few minutes helps me immensely. If you are very anxious upon entering the restaurant....it's a good time to "go visit the ladies room" while everyone orders drinks and gets seated -- tell someone what you want to drink and they can order for you while you collect yourself privately.

Let us know how it goes! Enjoy yourself!