Hope you work it out. It seems fair to me to do a little of both, moving & visiting, then staying put. I'd lay a plan on the table then talk it over, you'll then know how your wife feels about it. After that is known, evaluate your next move.

That next move doesn't have to be extreme, but there will be some cards to play.

Another thing to do is explore & develop some of your own interests while going places she likes.