T - I'm feeling much better. Next week, can we please please talk about this in a mature manner without your being defensive and without pointing out how everything is my fault or turning it into something pathological about me? I plan to talk about it in a calm, respectful manner.

Former T - Seeing your text was the first moment of joy I've felt in a long time. It was so timely and you always seem to say exactly the right thing-even though you don't realize it. Your note was so kind and thoughtful, and thanks for telling me you gave a positive assessment of me instead of a neutral one where someone might be left with a feeling of weirdness (why is he withholding information) leading someone to fill in the blanks. That meant so much to me.