Oh sweetie....

Your daughter "knows" you.. and knows that you are there for her....she knows that without you saying anything.. and the words will come... they will...

I am very concerned about your daughter..

I also am very concerned about you... you have had the shock of your life.. and here you are trying to figure the whole thing out...and you are trying to support your daughter at the same time.

Putting myself in your shoes.. (it could be any one of us as a parent) it would take awhile for everything to just sink in... your world has been turned upside down.. and sideways..

So... words will come to you... your title says it all.. dumbstruck.... shocked.. as we all would be... give it some time...