Actually, getting married because you think "it's time" is pretty common, I believe. I also think that men who stay single up to the age of 30 have a hard time with a permanent commitment. When I was 30, myself, and still single, I found that I preferred dating men over 30 who were divorced, rather than men who had bever married. Men in the latter group seemed to have not matured as much, since there's a lot of what I call "normal" experiences that they hadn't had. I particularly liked nen who had married and had children young because they just seemed to have more warmth and knowledge about life.

So I'm not surprised at you having difficulty adjusting. You were used to always having an exit door in relationships. And you tended to go through it at the first sign of discomfort in a relationship. That's actually a level of functioning that is normal for a teenager but not for a man over age 25. I think you showed wisdom in deciding to stop the old pattern of "love em and leave em."

Every study ever done shows that married men are happier, healthier and live longer than men who are perpetual bachelors. Of course you're having commitment issues, since you had a well-established pattern of not commiting.

I think most people new to a serious commitment - like marriage - hit a point when "the honeymoon is over" and start to think, "What did I get myself into?" Six months into marriage you were about due for that.

I would say that you should trust yourself and your judgement more. You decided to make this "leap of faith" with a woman who sounds like a good catch. You have yet to experience a lot of the wonderful things about having someone there for you through thick and thin. Maybe, you don't like any friction and were used to leaving women when any problem came up. Now you have to work through it with her. That will challenge you, but you will learn as all successful couples learn - that couples have their ups and downs. They get mad and say things, but life goes on. You'll come to realize that she and you can get over things. Thus is what I mean about people who've been married having more maturity. Therapy can't fix everything. But therapists got to make a living and they'll probably always tell you that you need therapy. Mainly, you need experience in the art of being a husband. You don't learn it all in 6 months. She has things to learn too.

I'ld strongly encourage you to not go driving yourself nuts by second-guessing your decision to marry. Put that mental energy into figuring out how to make things work. Married people don't go around consumed with sexual passion all the time. You're learning that simple reality. But the trust and friendship grow, if you try to care for each other.

My advice is: hang in there. Act loving, even when you may feel bored. That's one of the secrets. Don't give up before you've even really given it a chance.