I also know what you mean.....I posted something similar when I was at my farm in Kentucky. I am married with my husband in California, & it's been 32 years of marriage, but I refuse to let him come to Kentucky because of the horrible marriage it has been...I would really rather be alone than with him.

But.....I got a horrible cold & larangitis when I was in Kentucky & there were times I felt so horrible, I couldn't even leave the house to go to the store to get food for my dog or myself. I was just getting by & having to do things that I really felt like laying in my chair bed rather than even moving.

That was one thing my husband was good at was doing things that would help a person if you asked & he would get things you wanted so you just could lay in bed & sleep it all away....not have to give the dog a potty walk or cook dinner or even something simple like making sure the dog had water..

It is nice to have that other person around when you are feeling like you just don't want to move or do anything, but I'm not really sure that the price of having the person around with all the other agrivations that are part of a relationship are really worth having the person around when you are feeling bad.

I just arrived in California after a horrible trip home over the last few days & going through the horrible experience in Albeqierqie & he promised to cooperate with me at getting the rest of the house packed here. I came home in a bad mood, but he seemed to want to push every button in the world & wouldn't cooperate like he promised. I am so angry, all I see is RED when I am with him......I can't even imagine having him back in Kentucky at my farm for Christmas like I planned now.....I don't want to be anywhere near him.

But when I was sick & feeling horrible.....that was another story.......but I also realize that his help are really empty actions without much feeling behind them.....he just is the kind of person who does nice things for people because it's the thing to do.

Sorry for dumping my crap here.....I really do understand how you are feeling & glad that PC is here to fill that position of having someone around.

Debbie